Catch a Cheating Spouse

We use a variety of surveillance techniques in domestic, divorce and infidelity investigations. We catch cheating spouses and partners with our teams of investigators, including male and female agents. We offer:

  • Vehicle/GPS tracking (where legal)

  • Surveillance by foot, mass transit and variety of vehicles

  • Video and still photography, plus detailed final reports

Cheating SpouseWe work with clients who suspect their partners of infidelity. We know it takes courage and guts just to reach out for help. You have already taken an important first step by trusting your instincts. With a bit of patience and planning, we catch cheating spouses in the San Francisco Bay Area, California and wherever a case takes us. San Francisco family law attorneys select us for domestic investigations and family law cases.

We have investigative techniques that increase the chances of getting results. Surveillance is done on foot, by vehicle or mass transit. Video surveillance, photography and other technology help catch and document behavior and circumstances. We are committed to delivering results for your own peace of mind, whether the case is in court or you are contemplating a divorce.

One client, a woman in Alameda, shared her experience working with Walnut Creek private investigator Mike Spencer to catch her cheating husband:

“The question of hiring a Private Investigator was a tough one. There seemed to be a Yin for every Yang, nothing certain, and I just didn’t think I was the kind of woman to do that kind of thing. The only crystal clear part was that horrible, angry, steak-knife-in-the-gut feeling that my husband of 33 years was having an affair.

We’d met at age 15 and he’d been my yardstick for every man on Earth for 42 years. Then, one day there seemed to be about $72K unaccounted for from our second mortgage. What? How do you lose track of that kind of money?

I called Spencer Elrod Services feeling guilty, thinking the phone call in itself was being unfaithful to the father of my three children. I left a message with clear call-back instructions. I had a return email later that day and the first line was ‘“I’m sorry this is happening to you.’”

The cynic in me silently responded, ‘“Sure, right, I’m another wife you’re going to make some money on.’” When the one person you rely on to be the closest and the most honest welcomes another into the marriage arena, you end up trusting no one and you’re angry at everyone. That was me.

Mike and I set a time to meet. He brought a contract and I brought a list of questions, photographs and info, plus the retainer.

Our conversation started with the “’I’m sorry this is happening to you”’ statement but this time, eye-to-eye, I knew it was true. He’s seen enough gritty situations to identify my hurt. At that moment, I started to trust him and knew we could work together.

We chatted about details, schedules, mannerisms, possibilities and, most importantly, that even with all this prep and all his expertise,; we may still come up with nothing.

I returned home and did my homework, watching for signs or unusual behaviors, noting phone usage and planning the first day of surveillance. I took note of clothing, hat, bags, vehicle, direction, etc.

My husband’s first venture to ‘“her’” hotel room netted photos of his car…in the parking lot…for hours….through lunch, then dinner and beyond. Mike advised that they were tucked in for the night (another steak knife) and suggested we resume the next day. He left but I had to stay hoping that I was wrong.

My husband’s lies were compounding and he was tripping on his own words. My retainer had been spent but there was no evidence of the two of them actually together.

We landed the money video on the fourth day, thanks to Mike’s associate investigator. Emerging from their lover’s nest, they visited two local parks strolling, kissing, fondling and hugging. The missing mortgage money, coupled with the behavior patterns already set and some top-notch last-minute coordination yielded concrete and heart-breaking proof.

Ultimately, the videos and photographs are useless in a no fault divorce state like California, but their presence is proof that I was married to a cheating, lying schmuck who would take every opportunity to distort our financial situation in regards to our community property just as he took every opportunity to run to his girlfriend’s bed.

A little more sleuthing on my part has revealed several financial secrets including community property funds used to purchase Viagra and an out-of-state visit to a Bed & Breakfast…grrrrr.

Two months later, he’s moved in to his own apartment. I have a great attorney and am trying to find my groove once again. Once the affair was discovered and revealed, yes I told all, and our kids are still upset and angry. It wasn’t my dirty lie to keep any longer; it was his to live with.

I had to put my money where my mouth was; it was what I’d tell my own daughter to do if she confessed to me her own marital suspicions. The funny thing? My son said he could tell all along.”